4 Things to Know When Talking to Your Black Colleagues About Race

Quite honestly, we are all going to stumble through these conversations we are having about race. And, that’s okay! The key — the most important thing — is that we are HAVING these conversations. If you are struggling with how to approach a conversation about race with your black or brown industry colleagues, check out my tips below. I don’t specialize in race relations, so take my advice as one colleague sharing some tips with another.

1.The phrase, “I Don’t See Color” is Offensive. To a black or brown person, this phrase typically translates as “You don’t see me.” It also sounds like you are choosing to be blind to the effects of the systematic racism that people of color experience. Instead, try saying something like “ I see you.” “I hear you.” “And, I want to know more about you and what you are going through.”

2. Being Informed Goes a Long Way. As a wedding pro, I make it a point to research the religious and cultural traditions of every wedding I take care of before each consultation. If you truly want to be an ally to a colleague, don’t force them to be your cultural encyclopedia. Educate yourself about the experiences of others BEFORE you start asking questions about something you don’t understand.

3. Leave the Eggshells in the Kitchen. Your black and brown colleagues can tell when you are constantly “tip toeing” around the subject of race, and it makes them equally uncomfortable. If you have a question, ask. Try to avoid a long string of questions. (see point #2). Please try to avoid starting your question with, “ I don’t mean to sound like a racist, but…”

4. Avoid Burdening Us With Your Guilt. Within the last 48 hours, I have received almost 70 messages (e-mails, texts and DMs) from well-meaning white colleagues. They want to know how I’m doing and I receive that. However, some of the messages miss “ how are you doing?” and go straight to the “ I feel soooooo bad (or guilty). I am soooooo sad” I’ve even experienced tears on phone calls. Please avoid this action. It comes across as narcissistic and insensitive.

Love and Soul Always, Kawania

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Hey there trailblazer!

I’m Kawania (kuh won nee ah) and I own and lead two successful businesses in the creative industry.

When I started Howerton+Wooten Events in 2007, I found myself “googling” a bunch of business questions that aren’t always discussed in business books. You know what I’m talking about, right?!? Those “start up” challenges that keep you up until the wee hours in the morning.

Believe me, I’ve been there — That’s why I launched this blog. To provide you with a resource you can reference with those “middle of the night” questions as you launch, run and scale your own successful (and sustainable) business. There’s lots of information in this blog, so bookmark it and hit me up if you have any questions. We all need a little guidance every now and then, right? Take care friend. Keep shining!

Love and Soul Always, Kawania

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